7 ways to be a better human

I had to come up with 7 personality traits for a psyc. class. Im sharing them here in hopes that they may be of service as we all navigate our lives as individuals, and raising our beautiful children. 

1- 3 Daily gratitudes. At the end of each day, find 3 things that went right that were good. This can be as simple as “It was great weather today.” Be in the habit of writing them down. Participate in this exercise on what seem like the worst days. Finding something to be grateful for can lighten the load of the heaviest days. This is great to do with kids around the dinner table, or after school. It may require assistance at first. Help them find  things at school that worked for them that day. ex; I loved our lunch today. I played a new game at recess. My teacher told me “good job.” I got all of my spelling words right. It is my belief that if we can teach our children to be grateful, they may be more gracious and optimistic adults. They will also be able to deal with disappointments, in a more effective manner realizing that there is always a light to be found, even in the darkest of days. 

2- Be creative; Find a unique way to express yourself. Commit to exploring creative arts at least twice a month to start with. Try taking classes. Explore with children different mediums that spark their creativity. Get messy, think big, think outside of the box. Tapping into the creative muse that is in all of us, sparks the divine brilliance that we all are. It is so important to explore and have fun. Make new art, create new ideas. Embody the art of feeling, and expression, creating moods and feelings in magical new ways. Allow kids to blow bubbles, draw with chalk on the sidewalk, make forts, and reinvent the cardboard box. Let them jump in puddles, and make mud pies. All of these expressions are bound to ignite the force of creation in a young soul.

3- Work hard/ be fearless; Always do your best. Teach children to follow through with commitments. Before signing them up for a sport or activity, make sure they know what they are doing, and then let them know that they must follow it through. Give them chores, that are appropriate for their age. Teach them to be thorough and show them how to do their work well. Help them understand that being part of a family, requires a level of service that they offer free of charge. Help young teenagers find summer jobs, so that they can learn what if feels like to work hard, and be rewarded. Let them save up for that big item that they want so badly.  Teach children to be fearless in their commitments, and beliefs. Give them space to be the unique individuals that they are. Teach them good study habits. Make sure that they learn how to work hard in areas that offer a struggle. Teach children to learn as much as possible from life, and as adults, never ever stop learning. 

4- Thoughts, feelings, and actions;  In a world full of so many distractions, and differing beliefs, it is so important to maintain empowering thoughts and feelings. When children are young, we have an opportunity to instill in them the idea that their thoughts and feelings matter. Help be an observer for a child, and interrupt negative judgments and feelings they have, and help show them how to replace it with something positive. Kids are introduced to negative thoughts at a young age, pay attention to their words. Having 3 gratitude statements each day will help train the mind to remember the positive. When our thoughts and feelings are in alignment with our highest good, our actions will also be represented in integrity. This is a powerful life skill to learn and practice.

5- Practice non judgment; we all have to judge situations, and behaviors of others. Teach children from a young age, that every person has their unique trials. They are making choices that will teach them the greatest lessons they need to learn. We may still show kindness to those who are choosing badly, (as we label it.) In that moment we can find gratitude that theirs is not our path. If we can teach children to honor all humans exactly where they are, then they will be taught the practice of giving and receiving love. Its ok for them to learn that boundaries are important and we don't have to invite danger into our life. It’s an important balance to judge a situation, and not a person. To allow others to continue on their journey but not entangle them in ours. Teach children to pray for those that are suffering, and know that sometimes that is all we can do. Teach children to behave so that they are harmonious to the affairs of others and the events around them. Teach them by setting this example. When others are being judged and criticized help the children to see you as an adult be an example of non judgment. Help children look for the light in all beings, even though it may seem very dim. 

6- Reflection, and connection to nature. This is a very personally empowering trait. By learning to reflect, and connect to nature, we will come to know the truth of who we are in our uniqueness. From this place we will learn to stand in the world, speaking our own truth, and shining the light of who we are in all of our greatness and potential. Finding peace in nature, provides a meditation and reflection. Often ones soul will emerge in this solitude. Take children on hikes, and into the deserts. Let them explore the wonders of the earth, the stones, the animals, the trees and beaches. Take them to these places and watch their creativity blossom, observe their natural connection and reverence. Teach them about the importance of reflection and deeper connection. Have them leave their electronics alone while they explore and discover a new trail, or lake or sea shell. Answer their questions, because there will be questions. When their reflections are deep, go into that place with them, be a guide and let them know that they are in a powerful and creative place. As adults, find time to explore and be still. Notice, reflect and have gratitude. Look inside and see the profound being that you are. Make this a holy practice. 

7-  Give and receive love; A child can be taught this from an early age. As an adult, set the example of giving love to those who need it. Provide powerful opportunities for service. Find those in need of love, and find ways to fill the void. Allow children to see the suffering of others, and teach them that simple kindness, will spread a ripple. Teach them to be on the lookout for peers who are alone and sad, encourage them to be kind and inviting. And be willing to receive love back. Giving love feels good, so to be in the highest service, we need to allow others the opportunity to love and serve us. That way the blessing becomes a flow, in both directions. Provide a safe place for children to express their sadness,  and in that space, let them feel the healing power of love. As they learn to receive, teach them how to give.

Carpe Diem 
Seize the day!

1 comment:

  1. These are really lovely and well–thought out. I'm excited to try them.